Three tips for better gift giving

December 10, 2019

Everyone wants THE moment on Christmas morning. That moment when your mom/sister/husband opens up the present you’ve picked for them, and their face absolutely lights up! “It’s PERFECT!” they yell. THIS is the gift giving goal. When this has happened to me in the past my heart absolutely explodes with joy and I know all the time and energy searching was so worth it!

Unfortunately, getting this reaction doesn’t come easily. It’s so hard to know what to buy for people- especially if they don’t wear their heart on their sleeve. It’s why today we’re sharing three tips for gift giving that are sure to give you a leg up this holiday season– so you can get THE moment this Christmas.

1. Ask Questions

I can’t stress this enough: ASK QUESTIONS. As the holidays approach, it’s important you spend time with the people you love, weather in person or on good ole’ phone calls. Don’t just ask “so what do you want this year?”. Find a way to ask deep questions that will get your brain working on gift ideas! Here are some examples of good starter questions:

-What is the best gift you’ve ever gotten?

-What did you do last weekend?

-What was your first job? What did you buy with your first paycheck?

-Is there something you’ve always wanted to do, but never have?

-What is one of your favorite childhood memories?

These are the types of questions that allow for thoughtful gift giving. I remember I was asking my grandmother about her own grandparents last year, and she sadly replied that she didn’t have the answers to a lot of my questions. “I wish I had asked them more while I had them” she said. My wheels got to turning- and a subscription to ancestry.com came to mind. She loved it!

2. Be a good listener

This is probably the single most important piece of advice I can give you. A few months before the holidays, call or visit those friends and family members you plan to see this Christmas. Make a REAL effort to listen to everything they say, and find a gift opportunity in what they tell you! I like to keep a note on my phone with the names of all my family members so I can take notes on our conversations leading up to Christmas. 

A couple of years ago Justin remembered that I casually mentioned a super cool tree house on airbnb, and months later he planned a trip there for me as a gift! I was TOTALLY surprised, and I couldn’t believe how thoughtful it was that he took what I had mentioned in passing and made it happen.

3. When in doubt, gift experiences

Justin and I are huge believers in experiences over things! It’s a way to actually make memories, learn something new, and have fun! Way better than a candle or a new shirt, if you ask me. I’ll put some of my best ideas below to get your mind working.

-A cooking, cake decorating, or candle making class

-A weekend getaway somewhere close to home

-A kayaking trip, jet ski rentals, or a boat tour

-A wine tasting or a date on the calendar to try a new restaurant together


There you have it- our three best tips for giving amazing gifts this holiday season! We hope these have helped, and we wish you the best of luck during your gift giving this year. Merry Christmas to you and yours!


Want to get deeper this Christmas beyond gift giving? Check out our blog “5 questions to ask your grandparents” here!

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